How Much Do You Surround Yourself With Positivity?

By Tracey Walker

Nowadays our world is full of sad stories. Everything seems to be going wrong and this tends to bring us down. Not only does it affect our daily lives, it also affects our vision for success. It makes us feel that success is something that we will never achieve, at least not easily.

So what do you do when you are in the middle of all this negativity? The answer is clear, you surround yourself with positivity. Easier said than done, right? But believe me; it is as easy as socializing with positive people. That's right. Positive people will drive off all the negativity away from you. This is obvious since all the frowns will be replaced with smiles and all the worries will be replaced with desire. This sense of positivity is very important to keep alive in the business world, especially online. Sometimes you will just find yourself less motivated and be looking for that spark to get back on track once more.

Once you surround yourself with positive vibrations, you will again feel the rhythm in your business life. You will again see every chance for a business opportunity. Everything will be crystal clear once more. You may be asking yourself how you will start. Where do you begin? As stated earlier, you could actually start by simply surrounding yourself with positive people. Where to find them? That is actually an easy question since they are everywhere. That's right, even the person right beside you at this very moment could actually give off the positive aura that could inspire you to lessen the negative vibration surrounding you or even within you.

Inside the office or even in your network of friends you can find a lot of positive people. Take a break sometimes and enjoy the fruit of your business. As they say, the best jobs in the world are actually those which don't feel like work at all. How's that possible? It is achievable if you fill your workplace with positive aura. This aura will be coming from each and every individual in your office. After the positivity affects everyone, the smell of success will be evident and it will be much easier for you and your team to reach goals.

In closing, it is safe to say that making yourself acquainted with positive people will not only be good for your well being, it will also positively affect your online business career tremendously.

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Need Energy? - Try a Positive Attitude

By Sally Huss

My Happy Musing for the Day: Focus on the positive and the rest will fall away from lack of interest.

Energy is energy. Might as well make it positive! I've never seen something disappear so fast as when you don't think about it. So many times people work very hard trying to get something or even someone that affects them negatively out of their life, when all they have to do is focus elsewhere. It is like chewing on something that tastes bad. The taste lingers. Eat something else.

There are many in the psychology field who insist on working through things. "You have issues." I say, give up issues. Let them go. Do something else. Analysis paralysis can set in and there one sits. The mind can be a maze of endless turns with personality pitfalls, but the heart is ever-forgiving. It is not interested in the "hows" and "whys". It's interested in the "nows" and "sighs" of something better.

When I taught tennis it was interesting to see this phenomenon of focus in regard to changing a student's motion. Of course many times people would come to me with very unorthodox and cumbersome strokes. Now to change these strokes to something more effective seemed daunting to them. But the truth is I was not interested in changing what they had already learned, only to do something else. It made it so much easier if we did not have to alter what they were doing, but learn something new. That new motion simply replaced the old one without a struggle.

My husband does this trick when he is with his 96-year-old mother. When she gets on a negative jag he just changes the subject. Otherwise it would be an endless dialog of rationalizations for her point of view that never gets anywhere or does anyone any good. Good is what we're after and it's easier had by being positive!

"Life is wonderful. Don't forget it!"
Copyright 2008 Sally Huss

Sally Huss has been a writer and artist all of her life. She is a native Californian who studied art at Occidental College before graduating from the University of Southern California with a degree in Fine Arts.

Along with her creative talents, Sally developed her skills on the tennis court. She became National Junior Champion and a Wimbledon semifinalist before putting down her racket for a full-time career as an artist/writer.

Sally's art ranges from large and lively impressionistic canvases to deliciously colorful fish, florals and landscapes on paper. She paints daily in her gallery/studio in the heart of the art district of La Jolla, California at 7932 Ivanhoe.

Sally Huss has written and illustrated greeting card lines for Hallmark, American Greetings and Suzy's Zoo for over 20 years. In the last 3 years she has created a daily feature called Happy Musings, which King Features syndicated for newspapers world-wide. From her archives Sally offers in-depth comments on the meaning of her Musings.

These happy thoughts and the best of her greeting cards are now available as E-cards through http://www.happymusings.com along with a free Happy News newsletter.

To view Sally's gallery of original art and peek at her extensive lines of bright and happy products, including THE HAPPY BOOK, bibs, nursery wall décor, totes and purses, and gifts with thoughtful thoughts, go to: http://www.sallyhuss.com

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Dealing With Negative Thoughts

By Brian E. Zimmerman

Do you realize that as a human being, we have over a thousand thoughts that go through our minds a day, which are either negative or positive? The question I ask YOU is how do you deal with these thoughts that run through your mind all day?

You know, I've really been studying the mind and body over the past couple years because I really feel that in order to achieve the goals and desires that we have in life is determined by the thought process we have going through our mind. I feel the more self aware you are of these thoughts; the better your chances are of achieving your goals.

Now, what I've noticed over the past several months, that, I think, is extremely interesting and cool is that the more self aware that you and I become with ourselves, the more we tend to notice negative and positive things. Now, what I'm about to tell you is in no way intended to suggest that I'm better than anybody; but, I feel that with all my studies, I am more self aware internally and of others to a very large degree. When I tell people this, they think I'm crazy; but there is no possible way they understand what I am speaking about, for many different reasons.

The way I know this is because if somebody was really in tune with their own being, they would notice the environment going on around them a lot more. For example, any time I'm around negative people or situations, I can feel it in my body and mind, generally minutes before I'm actually around it. Am I saying I have physic ability? NO. What I am saying is that there is energy you feel the more aware you become.

When I am around family, friends, and other people, I can really feel and call the situations before they even come around. By having this feeling, it actually allows you or me to either KILL the situation with kindness or remove ourselves from it.

Just so you understand: negative thoughts and situations are normal and will always be present. I'm not saying that it's bad to have negative thoughts or that people are bad for having these thoughts. Once you and I learn and realize such patterns of negative thoughts and situations, we then can start to understand the learning process of these patterns that will lead to true success. I know it sounds strange, but it's true. It means you are self aware enough to notice and that's a good thing.

So, you're probably saying to yourself now, well Brian that sounds great. How do I take this information and become better? GREAT QUESTION FRIEND.

Here's more to the answer - The more self aware you become, the easier it will be to deal with your own negative thoughts. Why? Because your heightened awareness will assist you on catching yourself when you experience your own negative thoughts, so you can stop yourself and redirect yourself to focus on what you do instead of what you don't want.

You see, negative thoughts, to me, are reminders of what I should be focusing on or what I want. It's like my very own little navigation system that tells my body to either move towards something or move away from something. When I feel this little internal guidance system working in my body, or I feel negative, I attempt to catch myself and not get mad; it's just a reminder that I require to create change in my life.

WARING: Our natural instincts are to struggle and try to push that inner guidance away. We'll don't resist it because it's a great tool to keep you on track.

Brian Zimmerman is a top leader in the home business industry. He is known for developing top producers and leaders. His last venture he assisted top infomercial company increase profits by over 300% in less than a year earning well over 1.5 million a week. To schedule an interview with Mr. Zimmerman call 1 303 618 3458. For information on his latest endeavor go to http://www.brian-zimmerman.com

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Popular Free Positive Affirmations

By Ronnie Nijmeh

If you haven't heard, there are free positive affirmations out there that you can take advantage of right now. These affirmations are absolutely free and they have the ability to change your life right now.

There are a lot of positive statements out there to choose from and there are new free positive affirmations being added to websites every day, such as the one mentioned below this article. If you have not gotten in on the life changing process of using positive affirmations in your life you should not wait any longer. Because it's free to use them, what can you lose by giving them a try?

Free Affirmations Examples

If you are new to free positive affirmations you can apply them to your life to get you started immediately. After you see free affirmations examples you may find that you can create your own. This is a good thing because for affirmations to be powerful they need to be something that you strongly believe in and will actively implement into your daily routine. While this is true, you can get started right now with free affirmations until you are ready, if ever, to branch out on your own.

Below are some very popular free positive affirmations:

I am confident.

I am worthy of love.

I love myself for who I am.

I am a success in all I do.

I am confident and will be unaffected by negative people that surround me.

My possibilities are endless.

I am free to be myself.

Love, health, and wealth flows abundantly into my life.

I am only responsible for my own attitude.

The more positive I am, the more positive energy will be returned to me.

I can do anything I set my mind to.

By eating the right foods I nourish my body.

I can achieve anything I put my mind to.

No challenge is too big.

These are just a few of the free positive affirmations out there that you can use. They are general enough that you can likely apply a good deal of them to your life and benefit from them. Any of these free affirmations examples will help you to replace negative thought with positive thought or simply give you motivation to continue on your path even when you are thinking about giving up. When you believe in one of these affirmations and you reaffirm it at every turn by repeating it either in your mind or out loud you can make it your reality.

Many people have been surprised at the impact of affirmations on their life. Because you will be filling your life with more positive energy you'll feel more positive and the people around you will feel this coming from you. For many, when they introduce positive affirmations to their life they find that every day tasks seem a lot easier and even those stress provoking tasks seem to be easier to tackle.

Why not give the power of affirmations a try? You have nothing to lose and a more peaceful and meaningful life to gain!

Ronnie Nijmeh is an accomplished author, speaker and coach. He has been a featured expert on national television, radio, and print. Ronnie is the president and founder of ACQYR.com, an inspirational resource with free wallpaper downloads, affirmations, inspirational articles and much more. Learn more about ACQYR's positive affirmations.

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Do You Really Believe in Positive Thinking?

By Jahiel Kamhi

I got this unexpected question just a minute after finishing my presentation on positive thinking. Honestly, I was very surprised, even confused and totally unprepared. Actually, I sensed a bit of anger in the individual's voice. How should I answer this angry person? "Yes, I do"? In a split second I made a decision and said: "Would like to have a cup of coffee with me?"

"Me? I don't think so," said the angry person.

"No problem. Maybe next time. I understand," I replied.

I didn't have a chance to say anything more. He has just turned around and left the room.

This article is devoted to my angry listener who didn't want to find out more on positive thinking. My intention was to give him additional explanation, not to criticize him or to ignore him. I had just one desire-to help and encourage him. We know that people don't change by force, they change when they want to.

What I wanted to say to him is this:

Anger, doubt and blame are not appropriate answers to unhappiness. We can replace this negative energy with a positive one. It is up to us to put all the pieces together and switch from anger and unhappiness to live life well. We do not need anger. Anger is suffering. A productive and happy life goes only with understanding how to deal with problems.

Positive thinking is not just believing. It's the process of creating positive thoughts and clearing the mind of confusion, preparing the mind to meet every difficulty, and looking only for the good in any situation.

The positive-thinking person will accept whatever comes his way, not denying reality-tragedy does exist and life gets in everybody's way, but the positive-thinking person will refuse to dwell on it. Facing challenges, the positive-thinking person will make all possible efforts to find a solution. Dealing is a positive approach-complaining is negative one. This is the biggest difference between the positive and negative-thinking person.

Positive thinking is a state of mind and is the choice of the wise man. It's more of an outlook- how you will explain the situation to yourself when bad things happen. A true positive thinker actually understands that whatever happens, they will know how to handle it. If unwanted or unexpected events occur, they'll require wisdom, not sympathy, to move forward and to deal with the situation.

The problem with my "opponent" is his non-critical way of thinking. There is no way to reach any goal, any destination or anything else with narrow-minded thoughts. Pessimism is just one example of narrow-minded thinking.

Mistakenly, people believe that a positive thinker is always "in the happiest state of mind". No, it's not true and it's totally impossible, but positive thoughts will bring positive energy when you need it the most. Anger or sadness will bring only more unhappiness and more negative energy.

Do positive people feel sorry for their mistakes? Of course, but they know they can't undo them.

I know it's not easy to change negative thinking into positive. It takes time to break an old habit. We must have a good reason to change ourselves for the better; in this particular case, the reason is avoiding unnecessary anger and doubt.

Also, we need to use and exercise our minds! It sounds silly but the mind is developed by use, like our muscles. Using the mind by exercising it in the positive direction will provide us with mental power.

Every comment, thought or act is a direct outcome of belief. Every believer is known by his conduct-the negative believer by negative behavior, the positive believer by positive actions.

Whenever we are angry, sad or hurt, and we step forward to change it, we are doing a great service to ourselves. I can't stop emphasizing the immense ability of the mind to produce a healing change in the body. Emotional states (anger, fear, hurt) influence physical health for the worse and my angry listener probably is not aware of this fact. I must repeat a well-known statement: Whatever we expect-we attract. What we think, we become.

My non-believer doesn't accept positive thinking. How can he expect a positive outcome out of his negativity? What comes out of person is always what's inside the person.
I do not know the reasons for people's anger and unhappiness, but I know: when people stop blaming for their unhappiness, they'll start taking real steps toward recovery.

One more friendly piece of advice to my suspicious acquaintance: Be around positive people, they are our sincere friends. We can't be at our best when we are around negative people who bring us down. This is just one more reason to believe in positive thinking.

Whatever you do for yourself, do it with the love. Whenever you do something with love, your mind opens and everything changes.

Wise men use knowledge, while the ignorant ignore it.

Jahiel Yasha Kamhi
jasakamhi@hotmail.com

Jahiel- Yasha- Kamhi holds a degree in Medical Biochemistry and a Bachelor's degree in Chemistry.

Jahiel is passionate about writing, and conveying positive ideas that help people live life with more passion and purpose. His mission is to promote a good mental and physical health. Jahiel's core message is to inspire and encourage people, to give them hope and help them live their everyday life.

Being thankful for what is good in life rather than focusing on the negative is his message. With hope, all things are possible.

He writes regularly for online Newsletter http://www.personal-development.com and magazines. Jahiel delivers customized presentations, inspiring others to find more meaning and balance in their lives.

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Your Mindset - Why It's Important

By Kathy Whatley

Consider this:

How you think determines how you feel.

How you feel determines how you act.

How you act determines what happens to you... good or bad.

The one and only thing you have control over is your thoughts. You cannot think two thoughts at the same time. If I say "Purple Dinosaur", right at that moment you cannot help but think of it and nothing else.

You must choose (yes, I said choose) your thoughts as you would items you eat. Your body probably likes things that are not good for it, sweets and fatty foods rather than fresh vegetables, but what must you feed on to be a champion? A strong body requires good fuel. Consider your thoughts and feelings to be fuel for your mind. Make no mistake you are competing and you are in a race. A race for success. To not compete, to not try, is to lose the race. If you do not decide on what your life will be, then others will surely decide for you. You have the menu. It's in your hands, place your order.

Like attracts like. Think of everything as a magnet. You attract to you what you think and feel. So if you want success, you MUST think of things that make you feel good, powerful, in control and successful.

This is where the laws of attraction and the effect of your attitude take place. To be a positive person and to expect good things are essential and to take action is critical to success.

So, where do you start? You start by what you put into your mind.

Reading books. You need to associate yourself with people who have done great things. When you read books written by those who have what you have, who have been where you are and tell you how they did it, it inspires you. Their success rubs off on you. It's been said, if you could play basketball with Michael Jordan or golf with Tiger Woods, you would vastly improve you basketball or golf skills. Success is contagious. You just need to expose yourself to it.

Listening to Audios. This and watching videos are the same as reading books. Hate to read? Well, here is your solution. Drive to a job? Instead of spending your time listening to Elton John, Toby Keith, Nickelback, or whoever, why don't you spend that time feeding your mind? You're stuck in your car, so you might as well make it a university on wheels and feed your mind while you're in traffic.Here is what's going to happen. You're going to change. If you run, do sit-ups or push-ups, you change. You look better. You feel better. Same here. People will notice. Your outlook will change. Success will become automatic for you. You will instinctively make the right decisions in everything you do.

Lastly, Notice And Give Appreciation To Everything You Have.

Are you where you want to be? Of course not. Nothing wrong with you. If you're not growing, you're dying. You need desire in your life. So, instead of focusing on what you do not have, focus on every aspect of what you DO have. You already have so much more than nearly everyone on the planet if you are reading this. Give thanks for your health. Give thanks for your family, for your home, your car, your spouse, your children, and yes, even you're job that you despise.

You will find you will be given more as you show appreciation over what you have been given. If you are a parent, you know exactly what I mean by this. So, I'll suggest this. Make a list, right now, of 100 things you are honestly, earnestly, appreciative of. Go ahead, make that list...right now.

If you followed instructions and you have that list, then proceed. If you haven't done it, then ask yourself why. Is this maybe something that holds you up?

Have your list? Good. Now, read each item, out loud with feeling.

I'm going to assume you've done this now. If that's the case, it's impossible that you do not feel better. Guess what? You are now far more in line to have success in ALL areas of your life, right this moment than you were before.

That means in business too. Yes, this DOES translate to dollars in your bank account!

Remember, it's these kinds of things that everyone who is successful does. In fact, they think about these things all day long. That's why, they expect success! It's automatic for them and it can be for you too!

It's YOUR Time Now!

Hi, my name is Kathy Whatley. I live in beautiful Colorado, USA, and have two wonderful children!

I have been working in internet marketing for several years and I am currently in a wonderful and very profitable online business called My Internet Business.

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What Are Affirmations

By Meeyuen Thang

Close your eyes for a full minute and observe your thoughts. Try it. According to a study, an average human have 55,000 thoughts per day or 38 thoughts per minute. So, what were your 38 thoughts about? Were the thoughts running so fast you couldn't decipher its meaning? If you try observing your thoughts in silence with your eyes closed for a longer period of time, you will come to experience how our thoughts are a reflection of our inner beliefs. Every thought you think that is decoded into a word you say is an affirmation.

Our reality is created by our beliefs; beliefs are thought patterns we developed since childhood. These beliefs make up our personality; the positive beliefs become our strengths while the negative ones form our weaknesses. So, self development is all about transforming our weaknesses in order to have a more fulfilling life. You would have probably read numerous self-help books and attended countless motivational seminars, yet the dysfunctional thought patterns are still a hindrance to growth. Why? Most of our learning experiences are done on a conscious level. There is still growth and change on this level but some of our erroneous thought patterns are deep-seated. These flawed thoughts ought to be released and replaced with affirmative positive thoughts.

When we integrate positive experiences like a duck takes to water, it means we have made an affirmative deposit into our subconscious level. Our self-talk is a stream of affirmations and we are constantly affirming subconsciously through thoughts and speech which in turn become our life experience in every moment. The subconscious utilizes the behaviour patterns learned in the past to respond and react to all that is happening every moment in our life. If the basis for our beliefs is flawed at an early stage (e.g. "I am not good enough"), problems would crop up throughout life. The skills of being aware of our thoughts are not taught in schools as we were growing up. So, as long as we haven't understood that faulty beliefs are the source of our problems, we would be going around in much despair.

Just like how you would re-boot the central processing unit of your computer when you want to start anew, you can re-programme your thought patterns. Positive affirmations can replace invalid beliefs and create the reality you desire. Positive affirmations are short statements that help focus your awareness on your power and ability to create and have what you want. They are stated in the present tense as you repeat and say these affirmations, you will begin to create them as true for you. So in place of the erroneous belief in the example above, affirm: "I accept and love myself for who I am now"; and, "I give myself permission to be all I can be".

Use affirmations to open and expand your awareness of what you can have. Use them to align with your wisdom and to attune with the unlimited abundance of the universe. As you repeatedly say them to yourself, you will create positive, more enriching realities in your life. For a start, you may write your own affirmations on small pieces of paper and plaster them on your computer screen, car dashboard or the bathroom mirror.

Meeyuen Thang is a former journalist and since becoming a mother, her main interests are self improvement and child development, particularly in emotional literacy. You can visit her website at http://www.parentingtalks.com

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Never Give Up

By Sue Craig

When you first start learning about the Law of Attraction and start thinking about how everything is working in your life, it all seems so obvious... you are ready for some major self improvement.

You feel excited and feel the power rushing through you. You understand now why your life has been the way it is, why you are where you are today, and what you need to do to make it better.

You look at the ideas that have been instilled into you through the years, your ideas, your beliefs, and your actions... put the pieces together and WAALAA, there you have it, this is your life.

You set out to make the Law of Attraction work for you instead of against you and know that it is in your hands ( or should I say ' it's in your mind' ). You have the power!

So your going along just fine, changing your beliefs and your way of living and your life is getting better. You see the Law of Attraction in action and you feel yourself expanding into the universe.

Then something happens that is a reminder of your past ,that was negative and held you back. You feel yourself slipping backwards and just can't shake the negative thoughts that are rumbling through your mind.

Once those thoughts start haunting you and you keep hanging on to them, the positive experiences that you were having, turn into negative experiences.The Law of Attraction is reflecting what you are feeling.

When these thoughts arise , you know that they are serving no purpose, so do whatever it takes to snap yourself out of it. Meditate, use affirmations, read inspirational material, or at the least, distract yourself with a comedy or some relaxing music, but never give up!

Remind yourself that this too shall pass... doors are opening to amazing and wonderful things .This is no more than a temporary discomfort so just let it go.

You are a wonderful person and deserve abundance in all things. The past is not a reflection of who you are but it is what made you who you are, and You Rock, so take it as a blessing in disguise.

Sue Craig is the creator of http://www.unlimitedpower4u.com an enlightening and encouraging site designed to assist people in continually moving towards their higher selves. She is a massage therapist, writer, internet marketer, and lifestyle advocate. Sue has made the principles of the Law of Attraction a way of life and shares what has worked for her to give her a life of total fulfillment and wants others to have the same peace in their lives

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The Power of the Mind

By Adora Ganir

How many times have you fabricated an alibi that you are sick just to avoid attending a party, or a meeting or even going to the office? Did you not experience in one or more occasions feeling sick afterwards? That's the power of the mind working against you.

There were times in my life when I was so afraid that my son would acquire viral infections or any other ailments just because the babies of my colleagues are sick. After giving so much thought on that, I will just find my son suffering the same condition. It may be just a coincidence but it's also possible that I have invited that negative energy to come to life. Realizing that, I resolved to dump all negative thoughts as quickly as possible. I am now more determined to think good thoughts. Thereby, I have opened myself to God's abundance.

Your mind is so powerful. That is why it is important that you choose the focus of your thoughts. You are naturally drawn to whatever you focus upon. Imagine yourself in a miserable state and in no time you will feel miserable. On the other hand, picture yourself as happy, successful and enjoying the beauty of life. Instantly, you will feel refreshed, hopeful and ready to face the challenges of life.

Since our mind is powerful, why not focus yourselves in creating positive thoughts rather than draining your energy into negatives. You may be bombarded now by problems and financial burdens, but thinking more about it will not do you any good. In fact, it may be even worse when your health suffers and succumb to anxiety. Headaches, hyperacidity and even nervous breakdowns are just some of the ailments that you may develop in putting so much stress into your lives.

Why not focus on the solutions instead. Acknowledge the problem but quickly shift your thoughts into the possible solutions. In case of marital conflict, for example, think of ways on how you can remedy the problem. Do you need to consult a marriage counselor, or just sit down and talk about it, or just set up a romantic date and rekindle the fire in your relationship? In case of financial concerns, you may start by letting go of the things that you can do without like dinner outs and fancy gadgets. Some issues may look deeper than what I have cited, but the point is that you have to use the power of your mind to your advantage.

Believe that you have the power to better your life. Think positive. Focus on your dreams. Have high hopes. Trust in God and make a fresh start.

Adora C. Ganir
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Five Tips For Developing an Unoffendable Attitude!

By Doyle Slayton

I recently told a few people that I have been working on being unoffendable. I feel comfortable sharing this because I feel like I'm getting really close! Needless to say, the most common response I'm getting is a funny look. Now, I'm pretty good at reading people, but in this case, I'm not quite sure what these funny looks mean...

"What?!!!"

"I think he's gone over the top with this one!"

"You mean never... for the rest of your life?"

"Yeah right!"

"Is that even a word... it's not even in the dictionary!"

"Do we need to get you some medical attention?"

Pretty funny huh!

When you start to really think about it... you might say... you know what... I want to work on that... I want to build myself up to be unoffendable!

Let's do it... here are five tips for developing an unoffendable attitude!

1. Build your self-confidence. It is the most important factor.

2. Your happiness does not depend on other people.

3. Understand that your state of mind is your state of mind

4. At some point you are going to have to get over it. How about right now!

5. Claim it as true, "I don't get offended."

Best Practice: When somebody asks you, "Did that offend you?" or "Wasn't that offensive?" you can respond with... "I'm not sure... I've reached a point in my life where I don't get offended."

Each day... I pray for wisdom... to see things for what they truly are... to be able to communicate my ideas clearly... in way that everyone can relate and understand the message... so that people may move forward in a positive direction... and achieve great success!

What did I miss... What would you add to these five tips?

Doyle Slayton, Executive Director & Sales Strategist at http://www.SalesBlogcast.com

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An Experiment in Positive Affirmations

By Simon Meadowcroft

Sometimes after people have read my articles they write to me and tell me how they like what I have written and that I have really got things sorted out internally.

I have to tell them that my life is not organized, I often screw up and I often give the advice "do as I say and not as I do". The truth is that mentally I now have the right attitude, the problem I have is putting my thoughts into action.

In one way it is not surprising that I have mental development work to do. It is the reason that I started writing my articles in the first place and my problems with self esteem in the past are the very thing which allows me to empathize with people who are suffering with negative attitudes and negative self image.

So firstly I have to state clearly what I need to do:

'Program at a subconscious level the thinking that I have been developing at a conscious level'

The technique I intend to employ is positive affirmations, every morning I will repeat the following affirmations that I have developed.

1. I am a giving person

2. I can do anything I put my mind to

3. I am worthy of the respect of others

4. I am inspiring to others

5. I will become organized

6. I will improve my memory

7. I will sail through minor setbacks

8. I will handle major setbacks

9. I will learn the positive lesson from each setback

In order to further reinforce the process of infusing my subconscious with positive energy I am also looking for positive feedback from people in what I am trying to do. So if you can provide some helpful positive feedback to this article please do.

I will be writing follow up articles on my experiences with using positive affirmations, watch this space.

PS, if you are in need of some encouraging words, please let me know.

Simon

I am a husband, and father of one son who works as an engineer. I became involved in writting articles about self improvement and positive attitude as part of a process of developing a more positive attitude to life myself.

I am committed to making my thoughts freely available to anybody who takes interest in reading my articles in the hope that they can similarly make their attitude more positive.

For anybody who is interested in improving their attitude to life and would like to see more of my articles or simply wants some advice on how they can feel better about themselves please visit my website http://www.positivity.9f.com - I am interested in any feedback about whether my articles are providing a positive benefit.

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The Power Of Positive Thinking - 5 Useful Tips To Manifest Your True Power

By Lucas Adamski

To really see the power of positive thinking you have to believe in it. Perhaps you watched movies like “The Secret” and know that it can bring many positive things in your life. Everyone want to be happy, positive thinking can give to your life more colors and possibilities. Here are my top 5 useful tips to enjoy your life even more.

1. Affirmations are always a good way to tell to your subconscious mind positive phrases like: 'I can do it', 'It is very easy', It is possible' or some longer about your future goals. Affirmation can only work if you absolutely believe in it and repeat it quite often. Every time you are waiting for something or your mind is free try to repeat your affirmations.

2. Monitor your thoughts every day. I know it’s impossible to monitor all your thoughts but those main ones. Try to measure amount of negative and positive thoughts that you cross through day. When you catch yourself of negative thought try to find the source of such thinking and transform it to positive. After time it will become automatic, when you will think about negative things, reminding bad events in past you will stop it. It can become very tiring at start as it’s not too easy to reform pattern in your brain that cause creating negative thoughts. It takes some effort at start if you tend to attract to your mind negative thoughts.

3. Visualization is a powerful tool where you can experience the power of positive thinking. Visualization is amazing think if you can do it right. Think about future in positive way, pick what are your main goals and dreams, focus on them and think about how your life will look like than if you will achieve it. Be a daydreamer, everyday find few minutes to relax for a moment and flow to your dream world. In visualization key thinks is felling and emotions. You have to feel as you already achieve your goals and dreams.

4. Try to find every day 20-30 minutes to yoga, meditation or any other activity that can calm your mind. Stay then in positive attitude, enjoy the moment and relax. Positive thinking to any activity will bring you better results.

5. Everyday when you wake up tell to your mind, tell to yourself that it’s going to be a great day. Nothing will disturb your positive attitude and you will achieve more than ever. The power of positive thinking is really powerful, practice it on daily basis and enjoy your life.

Lucas Adamski is 19 years old successful internet marketer who teaches people most lucrative and effective ways to market online. Get FREE E-Book about the greatest lies of network marketing and discover best ways of How To Make Money Online.

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Affirmations: Positive Actions Begin With Positive Thoughts

By Kale Mcclelland

Success is important to everyone. Many people have specific goals for success that they are working towards or have already accomplished. Success can look different to different people. Some people's definition of success requires a lot of hard work and commitment. No matter how you view success, affirmations can be a useful tool to attain what you want.

Affirmations are our own personal statements that will guide us in our everyday lives. They serve as our goal to success. You can see your improvements and failures by assessing your affirmations. It is important that you list down your affirmations. Post it in an area where you can always see it.

Experts advise you to meditate on and repeat your affirmations daily for at least forty days. This process implants the affirmations in your mind, makes them a habit and will have a positive effect on your daily thinking. Repeating affirmations is retraining your mind to think differently much the same as you did in school. It takes time and repetition before affecting your life.

If you want to be successful, you need to think positive. Positive thinking will help you obtain your goals. When you are positive, it is easier to go through the rough patches in life. If you start thinking negatively, you will probably give up on reaching your goals. That is not the way to be successful. You will not reach your goals.

If you want to achieve success, you won't get there unless you are good at goal setting. You can set short term goals, medium term goals, and long term goals. Short term goals are those that you can expect to attain in a few week. Long term goals are goals that you can attain over the course of a few years or even a lifetime. Medium term goals fall in between those two. Set goals and measure your progress.

It does not matter what kinds of statements you use as affirmations. There are lists of them online if you have trouble thinking of some on your own. The important thing to remember is that you need statements that mean something to you. You should also have a few moments each day where you can meditate on the statement that you are repeating. If you follow these steps, success will not be far away.

Nobody sets out to be a failure, everyone desires to be successful. Everyone has their own idea of success and how to achieve it. Affirmations for success can be used to guide you towards a positive experience. The most important key to success is positive thinking. People that think positively, act positively and achieve positive results. Goal setting is another important skill to learn when you want to be successful. You should set both long and short term goals in order to measure your progress. The process of affirming your self worth, thinking positively, and setting goals should lead you to success very shortly.

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Increasing Expectation Positively!

By Richard Gorham

At your next staff meeting lead your team through the following discussion and exercise.

This exercise is focused on getting people to perceive things positively. The exercise goes like this:

Make the point to your team that they have the power to perceive virtually all things either from a positive or negative perspective.

Lead a discussion asking for attendees to offer up negative circumstances resulting from a well-known tragedy.

As an example let's consider the tragedy involving the Space Shuttle Columbia.

Creating this "list of negatives" will come easily for the participants given the nature of the disaster. For example: The loss of life, the potential effects for radiation on the ground, the devastating blow to the space program, the children and families effected by the loss of loved ones, etc.

In the interest of time and keeping your entire team fully engaged, make the list no longer than 8-10 items.

Next, ask the group to come up with a list of positive outcomes from this experience.

(Hint: This will actually be more difficult for the group because it is hard to voice optimism when talking about personal tragedy. However, you can offer up a few of your own ideas to get people started thinking from a different point of view.)

For instance some positive outcomes are:

- The space program will learn from this disaster and become even more safe for future flights - thus saving countless lives.

- The nation came together from the crisis, which is good for the solidarity of our country.

- The family members will remember their deceased as American Heroes and throughout history their family will take pride in his/her commitment to space exploration.

- The focus on the tragedy from the national media will inspire a new generation of space enthusiasts. Perhaps a child will become the greatest space explorer of all time as a result.

Now, challenge your team to come up with 5 additional positive outcomes. You will be surprised now by their creativity and renewed vision for what is possible.

Lastly, go through the exact same exercise. This time however, choose the following topic appropriate to your own business. Here's the challenge:

"Revising our production goals UP by an additional 15%."

After going through the negatives first (limit the list to only 5 items), then go through the positives, and allow your team to have a lengthy discussion on HOW this 15% production increase will be achieved. In effect, let them create a mini action plan.

Once the group has agreed on how to increase the production by 15% you can ever-so-gently inform them that "the goals did NOT just go up by 15%, only 10%! BUT, now that we have a plan for achieving 15%, don't you think we should use it?"

Have fun with this exercise! It shows people you are a leader with vision and that you understand the power of perception and belief.

Hopefully, it will also show your team that you have a good sense of humor and that you can relate to their concerns. This exercise makes for a terrific opportunity to "CONNECT" with your employees.

Show your team that it's ok to have fun while increasing expectations.

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About the Author: Richard Gorham is the founder and President of Leadership-Tools, Inc. His web site, http://www.leadership-tools.com is dedicated to providing free tools and resources for today's aspiring leaders. Offering high-quality tools in the areas of Business Planning, Leadership Development, Customer Service, Sales Management and Team Building.

Daily Affirmations Will Create Happiness

By Kaylie L Holbrook

Do you often have days where you feel down and frustrated with life? It is easy to get caught up in those negative feelings and wallow in your sorrow. But, it is also easy to pull out of the depression by using daily affirmations on a regular basis. You can actually manage your thoughts and attitude by using daily affirmations.

To start off, what is an affirmation? It is a statement or a thought of validation, it reinforces the thoughts or feelings that you have. For example, on those days when you feel down in the dumps you may think about how terrible your life is-- that is a negative affirmation that reinforces the negative feelings that you are having. But, you have the control to turn the negative around! Instead of dwelling on the negative emotions that you are feeling at the time, begin repeating positive affirmations to replace the negative.

What kind of positive affirmations can be used to bring happiness? Well, think about the things that you desire. If you are battling feelings of self-doubt or low self-esteem some positive thoughts that you can use include things like: I am healthy and well, I am happy with my body weight and shape, I am excited about the progress I am making in life, I make good choices every day.

In the beginning these daily affirmations may seem like lies to you because you do not feel that way. But, make a strong effort to really focus on the good things. Really focus on the positive thoughts that are associated with the statements, imagine how you feel to have those statements come to reality and put all of your energy and focus into that good feeling that you have. It is important to continue to repeat these affirmations throughout the day so that you can keep the good feeling with you.

Daily affirmations are a very effective and easy way to pull yourself out the sad feelings that you are experiencing. We all want to experience happiness and joy, use these statements to bring about the things that you desire!

About the Author: Kaylie L Holbrook has the secrets you need to change your life immediately with daily affirmations. Experience amazing changes in your life at my website: http://www.dailyaffirmationsonline.com.

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Positive Thought For Success

By Martin Forshaw

I have decided to write this article as I believe that many people could benefit if they familiarise themselves with the power of positive thinking. I strongly believe that by creating the right mindset (a positive mindset) you will see better results for whatever it is you want to achieve.

I would firstly like to give you some working examples whereby positive thinking has significantly helped me achieve results in my personal and professional life. Firstly, whilst at university, I was very often required to give presentations and I was delivering a minimum of 5 per week (only for one semester). I suffered from a lack of confidence and I was so convinced I would mess the presentations up, I inevitably did. This went on for the whole semester, until I read a book on positive thought. It taught me to block out the negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones, which I did by pretending that I knew more about the particular subject than anyone in the world. Then by thinking positively, for example I will deliver this presentation with minimal stutter and hesitation in a clear pronounced voice. I would also go over the perfect delivery in my mind to install into my mind exactly what I wanted to happen and I noticed significant results. This is because my mind was focused 100% on things that I wanted to do and not bogged down with the useless negativity.

I also play a lot of sport and I have implemented the positive thinking strategies here. When I play golf I used to stand at the tee on the first hole with lots and lots of negativity going through my head. What if I miss the ball completely? What if I slice it? What if I hook it? I now stand at the tee thinking I am going to hit the perfect shot, straight and far. Does it always happen? Nope! But it happens twice as much as it used to. It helps by picturing in your mind exactly what you want to do, I believe this way you are letting your brain know and it can go about trying to help you accomplish it. Start thinking negatively and your brain may take this as instruction as to what you want to do. I think when you say it like that, it makes the most sense.

I believe strongly in the power of positive thinking, although I really only consider myself a novice as I have only scratched the surface in terms of what else I might be able to achieve from it. Give it a try next time you are in a negative situation, you have absolutely nothing to lose.

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Make Change A Positive Experience

By Ronnie Nijmeh

Change is something that most people do not deal with very well. We are generally creatures of habit and when something - big or small - changes we often feel that our world goes into a downward spiral. This is exactly why we need to prepare ourselves for change and disallow any negative thoughts that enter into our mind.

You can actually use the power of positive affirmations to help you deal with change constructively and in a positive manner. The way you deal with change is your choice, so the goal is to choose well!

Affirmations are simple statements that describe the way you want to think or feel about something, and in this case, the way you want to think, feel, or cope with the changes in your life. These affirmations are meant to help you deal with things in a positive manner by doing away with all negative thought. Negativity is everywhere but free positive affirmations can help you limit its affects on you so you are able to lead a happier and healthier life. More importantly, so you can live the life that you want to live.

How to Infuse Positive Affirmations Into Your Life

Incorporating positive affirmations into your life is simple. You need to develop your own, or you can find free positive affirmations that describe how you want to think, feel, or deal with change.

Affirmations can be as simple as, "Change offers new beginnings. I thrive on new opportunities!" as you can see, this is a simple statement, but when you believe in it, you can make the change that you encounter in your life a positive thing.

When you believe in your personal affirmations you can make the changes you encounter a positive growth experience. You may be scared of change, but more often than not, your fears are irrational and unrealistic. Instead, if you believe that positive things will come as a result of new life experiences, this will give you the power to overcome the fear that comes with the unknown and to be able to make the most of your new situation.

Change is something that so many of us fear whether it is a new location, a new relationship, a new job, or the end of any of these things. Instead of allowing negative thoughts and anxiety to consume you, employ your positive affirmations and change the way you think. When you do this you can allow this change to be anything you want it to be. Change can be a new beginning, a chance to get things right, or the first day of the rest of your life. See how easy it can be? Having free positive affirmations can help you turn what could be a fearful situation into one of opportunity!

Using positive affirmations may take some work. Remember that the more you believe in the words you think and speak, the more power that they will have for you. Remember to surround yourself with positive thoughts and make the most of what is still to come in your life after the change.

Ronnie Nijmeh is the Chief Inspiration Officer at ACQYR.com, a motivational website with positive affirmations, motivational articles, and free wallpaper downloads. Learn how you can get inspired today.

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Mine Is Not The Right Way, It Is Simply Another Way

By Sharon Fredrickson

Recently, the California Supreme Court ruled that denying same sex marriage was unconstitutional. As of June 16th , I believe, it will now be legal for same sex couples to marry and you can image that this decision caused a lot of stir. While some said that decision was fair and just, others said that it was a horrible choice made by the courts. As I went to look at the weather on our local newspaper website, the headlines announcing this decision was there, in big bold print, for all to see. In smaller print and a bit off to the side were article headlines about a young girl dying as well as other pretty yucky headlines. (I now know go to weather.com so as to avoid the news even more.) I'll admit I read the decision story and while it offered the typical news, I was more surprised and completely wrapped up in reading the comments that were left by readers. Because this decision caused such controversy, there were literally hundreds of comments posted by readers concerning this issue. Some were happy about the decision, while others literally felt as though it could end life as we know, it not just here in California, but in the United States. By the way, there were little if any comments left about the other stories.

Part of what makes this country great is the fact that we can say exactly what we feel. So, while the differing opinions didn't bother me in the least, the way those opinions were being expressed deeply saddened me. Obviously not all of them, but more than enough expressed feelings of hatred from both sides. Some people who said they were Christians were saying how much they hated gays and I even saw one post were the writer (again welding a shield of Christianity) said he was glad because now he would know where gay people lived and could "do something" about them. Some of the people that were in agreement with this decision were very ready to call Christians and other religious people closed minded haters. While some of these people were saying we all needed to be open minded, their next sentence expressed resentment and hatred towards Christians.

While I was saddened by what I was reading, I wasn't necessarily surprised. There is one thing that people will fight, kill and die for.... the ability to be right. "It's my way or the highway." How do they know they are right? Their God told them so. (Remember when I say God I am referring to the Creator. You may choose to refer to him/her in another way, but for this conversation I'm going to refer to the creator as God.) The problem with this thinking is that as I've just said, we all have the choice of how we define God. So which one gets to make the decisions? Some say it's the one's we learn about in the Holy book. O.K., which book? The Bible, the Koran, the Bhagavad-Gita, the Talmud, etc. Once again, I submit to you that we need to get away from saying what is right and wrong and simply ask what works and what doesn't work.

I feel comfortable in saying that if we polled many different people, we would all pretty much want the same thing, a safe and peaceful world. If that is in fact the intention of people, then we need to step back and ask if our thoughts, feelings and/or actions are working to achieve that goal. When we are spending so much time and energy trying to prove that others are wrong and doing it through hate, it just doesn't work. You can't force change. You can't scare people into change. You can't do peace, you have to be peaceful. You can do love, you have to be loving. It's time we all step back and look at each other as we were meant to, which is simply as an extension of our self. Most of all, it's time we enter this one little sentence into our daily lives. Mine is not the right way, it is simply another way.

Sharon Fredrickson

Sharon is a thought leader who has achieved top honors in her business world and is a thriving entrepreneur. Sharon's background in leadership, motivational, and inspirational training gives her a unique and powerful ability to address life issues from an integrated and comprehensive level which inevitably makes you feel like you can reach for the stars and grab them.

Please feel free to contact Sharon at sharon@livinfree.com http://www.livinfree.com

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Stay Positive in Mind and Life

By Teddy Mueller

I am turning a little corner here. I have written many different articles, Music, Retail Business, History of Rock, yet I need to write this one. We as a people need to find our way. Life is not the same as even 10 years ago.

We need to change with the times as much as we do not want to, we must. If you look at history, we are on top because of war, we built the best planes, the best tanks, the best of all warfare. You may not like to hear this, but if it was not for this you would not be here. We would not be the super-power we are! Be happy you are here! I am not sure we are doing the best job in this area. You and I must decide this and make decisions what to do. Be smart, look beyond what people say, why do they say it, look for sincerity and truth! Don't be fooled by trickery! Be smart in what you see. Now back to why we are here!

I know you all have been negative, doubting yourself, being negative within your mind, your body, and your soul! It happens to all of us. I don't understand why, but I will not have it live in me. My life is difficult, hard, emotional, not to mention people putting me down, telling me I am worth nothing, saying I don't add-up. Why do I dress that way, why do I talk that way, why do I look that way, why do I think that way,....why, why, why......! I am sick of it, What do you think, the media, television, it's sickening, you have nothing to say, that is sad! Real sad, can't we look at truth and what's real, this media add's up to nothing. If you want to look here and be happy good luck with your future, it's false advertisement and add's up to nothing. Believe in this if you must, it won't last and will beat you every-time, unless as we speak earlier that we have the strength

People who don't understand others, or aren't willing to try have a problem themselves! That is some of the reasons and problems we have today. Let's take a good look at ourselves! We know we must take a good look at ourselves. Let's do it.

Please let's keep a positive outlook on our life and in our mind. I have been around the world in life and in my mind, please be positive in all you do, be positive in your body, soul, mind, and in all you do! Death is not a place you want to be! For it is over then! There is no turning back! We have all felt so low that it is the only place to go because we we're lost! But we do have a place to go, believe in yourself, you have the answer, with the help of your higher power, you have all the answers, just believe, have faith, know you are worth a power no-one on earth will give you, it is a spiritual power You have many places to go, dreams to make happen, Love that can come true, all of this can come true! You must believe in yourself. I know you have heard this time, and time again. It is the truth, if you don't believe in yourself , who will? Please believe in yourself! We must look deep inside ourselves to seek out the answers for what we need and we can do it. We don't need someone outside to tell us what we need, deep inside all of us we know what we need! Don't be fooled by all this! You know in your heart what you need to do. I believe in people. I know they know what is important, the are just afraid of facing the unknown. Yet it is not unknown, it only feels that way. Shake off the unbelief in yourself, shake off the unknown in your mind. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, Again BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!

Don't doubt yourself, Be Positive, Live Life, Push the problems away, they don't deserve the attention. Hang in there. I know it's tough, but please get through it, you will keep all the things you have going for you, your integrity, your personality, your humor, your special coolness, and especially your soul! You may not see it but others do. Think about your life, we seem to take it lightly but others don't take it that way. It's easy to put ourselves down, that's easy, anyone can do that. Stand up for yourself, look at your strong points, look at what you can offer, believe it do it, it's not easy , you make the choice! Follow your higher power, he'll guide you! Remember people change the world...! They always have. Dream, Look to future, Learn, Study, Be a person who is not afraid, Be a person who does not give up, Be a person to accomplish what was something that was impossible accomplish at a time before you! Stand tall, make things happen! Don't be a follower, be a leader. You will have to fight, kick, scratch, all of it...! To be a winner have to be better than the rest! If you listen, your just like the rest-Don't go there! Study, Look, I said it before, be better! Figure it out! No-one is going to give it to you, figure it out!!!!

As a people, we must study, we must be smarter, we must study and be better! If not all we are is a people following what's come before. I don't want to be that...!

I want to see people have a positive mind, a positive life, a vision to change the things that have come before, and a way to make them better, we have along way to go, please people wake up, get up, listen, look, see, become part of the solution and not the problem.

I am not trying to preach, I am only trying to have us open our minds. If we don't, we lose! I don't want us to lose, this country has great heart! With all it's disagreements, and problems, remember 9/12-We came together like the world has never seen! Remember!

Lets get a positive mind and life-Look hard and you will find it...!

About the Author:Teddy Mueller started his career as the drummer for classic rock band Axe, touring with Ozzy Osbourne, Kiss, Judas Priest, Motley Crue, Ted Nugent, Cheap Trick, ZZ Top, Iron Maiden, Joan Jett, Alice Cooper, and many, many more, Teddy has been around the world playing his drums and played for crowds of over 50,000 people! Since then, Teddy is a voting Grammy member as well as working in the retail business environment as manager and district manager for major retail companies. To learn more about Teddy Mueller, visit his website: http://TeddyMueller.com

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Making Positive Choices from Infinite Possibilities

By Lynn M. Scheurell

"You and I are essentially infinite choice makers. In every moment of our existence we are in that field of all possibilities where we have access to an infinity of choices." ~ Deepak Chopra
I believe that we are spirit travelling incognito as humans; in fact, I wrote a movie about that. The key concept to us, as spirit, is that we are swimming in infinite possibilities on a daily basis (not that time has the same meaning to spirit), and we have to make choices in order to "tangible-ize" our possibilities. Every day, we choose little things, whether to work out, what to eat, who to spend time with and what to work on throughout the day, and big things, like our interpretation of the meaning of life and how we want to show up in the world.

Our job is not necessarily to create opportunities but to decide which ones to pursue. And the hardest part about it is that there are no guarantees - there are only choices.

So how do we know what choices are best for us? A positive choice just feels good. Some part of us knows that it is the right thing to do. It opens up our lives and creates new momentum for the best of us to shine and be recognized, even if only by our own inner fan club. And we know when it's time to make a new choice when we feel: stuck, tired, sick, confused, negative, fearful, bored, safe, comfortable...and more. We know when it's time to make a new choice. The question really becomes: are we ready to have something new?

A positive choice moves us forward in some sense (even if it's hard to do or against the well-intentioned advice of others) because it helps us become more aligned with our true purpose. It's a choice that is about us, not about anybody else or their wishes or what they can gain by it - it's truly in our best interest and we have the domain to make the choice at hand. A positive choice sets us up to win - we will gain something, whether it be knowledge, skills or experience, by pushing our growing edge.

3 Things You Can Do:

1. Look at where your growing edge is hiding. Consider where you are too comfy, or anxious, stuck, bored, fearful, negative... any feeling that isn't absolutely free and flowing is a place where your growing edge for new choices is revealing itself.

2. Look at the results you've gotten / are getting. If you don't like the results of your life, which is shown through everything around you, it's time to be accountable to yourself in a new way. New choices will require you to show up more clearly, in a more focused and powerful way. And how you show up by making new choices will generate new results - it is simple cause and effect. Change the cause (choice), and you change the effect (result).

3. Make a list of all your possibilities. Consider new directions you could be pursuing in the following areas: career/vocation, self-knowledge, family, wealth, reputation, marriage/relationships, communications, creativity, community, health. These possibilities might come from ideas, inspiration, new associations, doing something you've been putting off, advice from other people, enjoying a wish list thing... it's pretty much endless. If you can list at least 3 new directions in these areas off the top of your head, you've got some choices to make - or you have to answer to yourself why you're not decided to make new choices after making that list!

May you enjoy both the swim in infinite possibilities and the results from making positive choices!

Lynn Scheurell, Creative Catalyst, helps conscious entrepreneurs strengthen their inner systems, both personal and professional, for faster business results. She teaches renaissance souls how to gain clarity on their purpose by remembering who they are from their essential self, then aligning everything they do to express their unique gift through their business while working with natural energies for maximum support. Register for a free GEENI™ for Change ecourse to learn how to upgrade your life in just seven days at http://www.mycreativecatalyst.com/

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The Power Of Your Mind

By Ali Mack

When we start talking about the power of the mind I think of the powerful saying "Your Thoughts Create Your Life" and wonder if this is really possible!In my previous post - " Does Your Personality Make You Disease Resistant" we talked about why some get chronic illnesses and why some don't seem to suffer at all, and is it all possible that it is through our own thoughts that this situation was created.

Let me give you an example from within my own life….. My brother-in-law was diagnosed as having cancer and was told at the very best he could expect to live was five years, worse case scenario would be two years. So rather than get depressed and morose over the situation his first reaction was to defy this prediction and set out to prove his physician wrong.

So instead of accepting this death sentence he began looking for alternative therapies to get him through this hurdle in life. As well as reading and finding out as much as he could about his condition, he started taking herbal supplements, eating organic foods, drinking green tea, and used humor to keep him positive as well as indulging in positive mind games. "Knowing What You Want and Getting in Harmony With It", in other words having a focus point and fixating on it and getting to the finish line. But the secret was he never had a finish line he always kept moving the line it as he got near it.

However during his treatment about two years after first being diagnosed he got really sick and we were told he was very close to death. At the time his daughter was on an overseas trip and it was decided we would bring her home (a 24 hour flight plus travel time so at the least it would be 36 hours) before she would be home. Through his pain he said that he would wait for his daughter to return, as he needed to see his little girl and apologize for shortening her trip. Although most of us did not believe he would make it through the night and believed that his daughter would be coming home for a funeral. However he did get to see his daughter and slowly got better and is still here with us to this day 10 years after being diagnosed and being told he would only do five! He later told us that on the morning that his daughter was to return he set his next goal and that was to see her get married.

So it's all about getting clarity in what you want and getting your mind and body in tune with it, and visualization is a major part of this mind process. The gurus tell you visualization is "simple", just find a quiet place, relax close your eyes and imagine what you want in as vivid detail as possible - what you would be seeing, hearing, and feeling when the goal is already accomplished. They say to just use your imagination and picture yourself in the future as if you already have achieved what it is that you want.

Now you may have tried that, but found that it really is not that "simple" but there is a way to visualize that no one is telling you about. It's been proven to work for thousands of successful business people, athletes, performers, and leaders. This method combines the power of hypnosis with visualization for an ultra-powerful combination. It helps you to program your mind to release everything that you don't want, and to pull towards you exactly what it is that do you want. To find out more about this method go to my blog at http://healthyalternativemedicine.com/blog

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What to Focus On to Have Positive Attitude Every Day

By Vincent Kituku

"Muli, get me a basin with water. I want to take a bath and go to Nairobi." This was the request of my mother after I arrived home from school. A visitor in our home might wonder, "How can she go to Nairobi at this time of the day?" My mother seemed to have the punch line ready, "I am going to my husband's store. That is my Nairobi."

Nairobi, the capital city of Kenya, had its charm, especially for rural folks who rarely had the chance of visiting the, "place of cool water." Nairobi dwellers had different perspectives from those who lived in country sites. They had exposure to different cultures and the Western lifestyle. Their food was different from that in the villages. Cultivation, which roughned the skin of rural folks, was not practiced in Nairobi. Thus, dwellers of Nairobi had smoother skin.

As I was growing up in Kangundo, it was a special event for a woman to visit her husband in Nairobi. When she returned, she brought new clothes for her family. Sometimes, she brought bread and other unusual items. If her visit lasted a month or so, her skin would affirm the comfortable lifestyle of Nairobi. It was smooth and starting to soften. When communicating with neighbors, she would use Swahili or English words here and there, which were the dominant languages of the big city.

My father left the King's African Rifles (British Colonial Army) in the early 60's to start a business in our local shopping center, about one mile from our home, but 60 miles from Nairobi. Every evening, my mother would go to the shop to help him and close the business for the day. Our business was mainly a fabric outlet. By the early 70's, the business was well established, and people knew the best material was found there. Dad made sure that my mother had the newest fabric in the community, which was the best advertisement.

What was fascinating to me was her contentment. She was so proud of it, she could never miss the "real Nairobi." When my mother went to help Dad, she also bought cooking oil, meat, kerosene and other supplies the family would need. For my mother, this was her "Nairobi."

My mother's attitude and contentment were my first encounter with the Biblical teaching, "But Godliness with contentment is great gain" (1 Timothy 6:6). It is the contentment that makes the heart leap with joy in the midst of material poverty; contentment of the soul that gives the mind unexpected peace to enjoy the triumphs of the day without focusing on the wants of tomorrow or languishing on past disappointments; contentment that culminates with an attitude of gratitude for the blessing of life, appreciation for divine providence of basic necessities, thankfulness for a closely-knit family and an understanding that God has the best in store for us.

Just look at what you, where you are and what you are doing. Focus on what is good and working for you...that's your Nairobi

Dr. Vincent Muli Kituku, Dr. Vincent Muli Wa Kituku, author of Overcoming Buffaloes at Work & in Life works with organizations to increase productivity through leadership and employees development programs. He can be reached at http://www.kituku.com or (208) 376-8724. Dr. Kituku has been described as a research-based motivational speaker/trainer whose storytelling skills have won awards for both spoken and written words. He is one of the less than 7% speakers to earn the coveted Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) recognition, the highest designation presented by the National Speakers Association.

Wherever he speaks, people from all backgrounds agree that words cannot describe Vincent but that he must be experienced. His ability to captivate audiences with content, interaction and entertainment has made him not only a sought after speaker but an annual presenter for key organizations.

The impact of Dr. Kituku's memorable speeches and workshops has propelled him into a league of his own. He has given presentations for HP, CISCO, MICRON, AIRFORCE, GENWORTH FINANCIAL. He has been the motivational speaker for the successful Boise State University Football Team since 1998-the alumni of BSU selected him the 2003 Homecoming Grand Marshal.

A scientific researcher and experienced corporate America student, Dr. Kituku, a native of Kenya, Africa, draws on his rich cultural heritage and his in-depth experience in corporate America to help others apply the strategies of personal and professional success to their lives. Vincent offers individuals and organizations the necessary spears to change and stay motivated. Since establishing Kituku & Associates in 1995, Dr. Kituku has done research on the challenges and expectations of every group he has worked with. He then uses the data/information to develop and present a customized presentation audiences can relate to and apply in whatever they do to make success a continuous experience.

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Dealing with Difficult, Argumentative People and Yourself

By Paul Hannig Ph.D.

You try to get a word in edgewise. Everything that comes out of your mouth is met with an argument. Whatever you say is met with negativity and denial. You ask your kids to do something and they always seem to be defiant and uncooperative. They even call you names. People make obscene, put down gestures to you and say nasty rotten things to you ... things that you just don't want to hear and see.

That rush of rage come up. It's like a knee jerk reflex. You want to physically hit that person or persons. You want to say nasty retaliatory remarks. You want to pay back and avenge yourself for being treated badly. You are on the verge of losing your judgment and temper. You must get back at the perpetrator. You've reacted. You've stuck your two cents in when you should have acted more prudently. You get scared. You're afraid of the terrible things that might happen now that you've gone too far with your vengeful anger.

Welcome to the Club!

You are like so many other people. You react to insult, injury and provocation and question whether there is something uniquely wrong with you. Well, relax! You're normal, although perhaps a bit unwise. There are people and things out there just waiting to jerk your string, push your buttons and provoke your rage. It's an unfair, cruel world and you are subject to having to deal with argumentative, defiant people. They are the "crazy makers". They will subject you to stressful responses that could be regretted after the smoke and fire clear.

You may be quick to anger and retaliate. You may wish and pray that you could always remain calm and turn the other cheek in provocative situations. Perhaps you admire and envy those people who seem to never get frazzled about anything. They always seem to be so gentle and incapable of "hurting a fly". Well, obviously you are not such a saint and you do get riled when someone gives you a hard time.

Let Me Give You Some Consolation ...

You are a good person. It does not have to take years of psychotherapy to get you to handle provocative, defiant, argumentative people. You do not necessarily have to explore your unresolved childhood traumas. Too bad if your parents were defiant, argumentative and fought with each other. Tough luck if you were made to do and listen to things that you didn't want to as a youngster. So maybe you were a little bit defiant as a kid. You argued with your parents and siblings and your teachers thought that you horsed around too much. So what if you were suspended three times from school for mischievous behavior and your neighbors thought that you would grow up to be a criminal. Do you think that these things made you vulnerable to being seduced by provocative, defiant and argumentative people? Well, maybe ... SO WHAT! There's nothing terrible about this situation and you are not a bad person. The trick is to learn how to control those rising, hot, angry reactions ... to change your feelings early so that you do not go out of control and make the situation worse. It is best to de-escalate the tension rather than heat it up by doing something that you will be sorry for later.

Steps to Staying Calm

The first step to defusing that upsurge of angry energy is to realize that it is possible to be provoked into an argumentative situation at any given moment. Defiant, argumentative people do not really want to hear, listen or receive what you have to say. They are poised and ready to spring into defiance and disagreeableness. They are set to discount any, if not all, of your perceptions, thoughts or feelings. They are rejectors and life with them is usually punctuated with unpleasantness, fights and yes, even violence. These are the people that you just want to punch and throw through a wall. Real closeness and intimacy with them is virtually next to impossible.

The second step, if possible, is to avoid deep intimate relationships with such people.They will only cause you grief. Their attacks on your character will bring out sides of yourself that you will not like. It is best to form close relationships only with those people who do not trigger your intense, negative reactions. There are so many wonderful, agreeable, positive people in this world with whom you can get along. So why struggle! You have a right to receive as much happiness, joy and pleasure as you can stand. Remember, entering into relationships with provocative people will only make you unhappy and could injure your self-esteem. Put downs are not a positive experience, so avoid vexatious people. Learn how to control your angry/anxious reactions when in the company of such individuals. Your first response to such negative interactions may be to raise your voice. If this happens, it is an indication that you have a need that is not being met.

The third step to defusing angry energy is to realize that most provocative situations involve a competition for need satisfaction. You may feel that someone is being insensitive to your needs. The truth is, the other person also has needs to be satisfied you are both in competition. For example, there is a group of kids being very noisy in the next room. You are watching television and they are interfering with your need for relaxation and entertainment. However, in reality, they are only trying to satisfy their need for playful fun and are not being deliberately provocative. They only want to satisfy their needs, the same as you. Your anger rises, but you immediately let it go and remain calm. You choose to postpone satisfying your needs for the moment. On the other hand, you could have satisfied your needs first by gently telling the children to keep the noise down. Either way of handling the situation prevents your getting upset and allows the kids to keep playing without disturbing you. Everybody wins and you have kept your cool.

When I was a young boy I saw two neighborhood fathers fist fighting over their kids and a rubber ball. A simple dispute escalated into full scale warfare between grown men. The fight started with their children but soon involved the whole neighborhood. In my opinion the quarrel should have stayed with the kids. Parents should stay out of such disputes and only enter to remove their children if the action gets too hot and heavy. That way, you protect your child and you do not get involved with your rage and violence. The choice of not fighting fits into your philosophy of not being able to successful get what you want in this manner.

The fourth step is avoid becoming triangled into someone else's quarrel and this method of choosing not to get angry keeps that from occurring. It is always better to send the antagonists back to each other in order to work things out. That way you do not make their problem, your problem. Rule of thumb: if two or more people are acting provocatively it is better to separate them by pulling yourself or your child out of the fracas. If you don't, you will be in danger of being provoked. That situation will not get your needs met. Your goal is to get your needs met without being provoked into rage.

Negative and Irrational Beliefs

The question arises: what if I am one of those people who provokes confusion and anger in other people? Yes, I said confusion. If other people do not know what you need or want, how can they respond to you without confusion and anger? People with low self-esteem have irrational beliefs about themselves. If you are one of these people, you will frustrate others, because they cannot understand you or read your mind. It would be better to express your needs or wants in a non-competitive way. You could say, "Right now I need/want something and I don't know what it is, so bear with me while I try to explain what I want. I also don't wish to compete with other people here". Then explain as clearly and directly as possible what it is that you want, no matter how difficult it may feel to you.

You may harbor a low self-opinion inherited from your past. You may unconsciously believe that you are unlovable, unacceptable to yourself and others, ugly, stupid, boring and wonder how could anyone like someone as lowly as you are. These are loser beliefs and they have to be challenged, confronted and disputed out of existence. If your self-esteem is low, you will treat these lowly, evaluative beliefs as if they were facts rather than just an opinion of yourself. These beliefs are non-utilitarian and interfere with your pursuit of happiness and high self-love.

First, believe that these negative beliefs that you create have far too much power over you and understand that they can be changed with vigorous hard work and effort. They will not disappear overnight, but you may be pleasantly surprised how fast you can get rid of them.
Second, remember that these negative self-evaluations have been firmly fixed in your preconscious by years of repetition. Their effect has been very strong in determining your behavior and self-esteem. Fortunately, you can use the same repetition method to dislodge such self-effacing beliefs.

Paul J. Hannig, PH.D. is a licensed California Marriage and Family Therapist offering innovative and in-depth individual and group therapy. His expertise includes Deep Feeling Therapy, core self work, psycho-spiritual therapy, and marriage/relationship counseling. He is the author of "Feeling People", "Sizzling Relationships: the 401(k) of Love", and "Coping with the Disorder" plus many well-known, published articles on Mood and Personality Disorders. His office is located in Chatsworth, CA (near Los Angeles) and he is available for in-office consulations and long distance Telephone Therapy. Dr. Hannig's web site PsychotherapyHELP (http://www.nvo.com/psych_help) offers a vast compendium of free articles and resources to download, therapy information, and books and media to purchase. He can be reached at phannigphd@socal.rr.com. With the creation of the PsychotherapyHELP web site, Dr. Paul now brings over thirty years of his knowledge and expertise to all who search for answers to deep emotional pain and interpersonal problems.

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Mind Power - Happiness With Positive Thinking Tips

By Joel Chue

Being a negative thinker is very unhealthy as it lowers your self-esteem and bad for your morale. It drains your energy rapidly and causes you to lose focus. To stop being a negative thinker, you have to change your thoughts pattern.

1. The first tip to being positive is to look after your body and mind. To ensure that you are in a good shape, eat well, exercise regularly, sleep well and spend time with your family. A relaxed and healthy body is a natural attractant for positive energy.

2. Reject and delete any negative thoughts that flashed through your mind. Researchers found out that an average person has about 60 000 thoughts being flashed through his mind on a single day. Why should anyone cling onto a negative thought? Make a conscious decision, and do your best to rid of any negative thoughts.

3. Hug your loved ones. By hugging, it increases your self-esteem. It makes you feel comfortable and loved. Move past a cold and sturdy handshake, and hug someone you really love and care for.

4. Make sure that you surround yourself with happy, cheerful people. Avoid friends who think poorly of themselves. This way your mind will always pick up positive vibes.

5. On a piece of paper, write down all the things that you are happy and grateful for. They can be your friends, your colleagues and your family. After you are done with the writing, paste the list somewhere it is conspicuous so that you can see it everyday. This will remind you of all the things you are grateful for and not take the things you have now for granted. Most importantly, it keeps you happy too.

6. Get out of the habit of fixing labels to people and situations. Don't say "I always knew it" "I always said so" "She never cared for me" "You have always used me" , etc. Such negative thoughts put you on a negative footing. They also lower your self-esteem.

7. Do not ever be afraid to speak up. You will never gain confidence if you do. You do not need to bother what others might view you as if you speak up as you are living your own life, not others. Opportunities may slip away if you remain silent.

8. Don't think of the negative stuff when something happened. When your boss asks for you, don't think of him reprimanding you or giving you a sack. Life is unpredictable; he may want to give you a raise in salary for your excellent performance.

9. Extend a helping hand to those in need. You can read a story to your neighbor's mother who is crippled and can't move; or you may go out and trim the garden of an orphanage on a weekend you are free. You will find that these small gestures have a wonderful way of generating positive energy. They make you feel warm, energetic and wanted.

10. There may be times when you find it impossible to get rid of negative thoughts. In such situations you should go out of your house for a walk or a jog. You can even go to the gym and do some light exercises. Such activity takes your mind off the negative thoughts.

If you follow these steps, you will find that your mind starts rejecting negative thoughts on its own.

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Positive Mind is Powerful

By Clement Fernando

Positive mind is the power in every individual.

All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We are in control, whether we know it or not. We can be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive.

"A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes." Gandhi

No one can blame others for what he/she is. You are in control of your success or failure. You control your situations if you control your emotions. When you lose control of you emotions , you lost control of your situations. We should not be led by our emotions. There is difference between your head and heart. Head helps you to think of reality and heart produces emotions. If you obey your heart always, you will make many wrong decisions because you yield to emotions which will vanish soon.

You have to become the master of your feelings. It is not an easy process. It requires practice and self control.

Winston Churchill said, "A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty".

People, who complain about everything around themselves, never become winners. Complainers are sorrowful people. They have the notorious ability to make everyone feel miserable.

Don't look around and compare yourself with others.

"Instead of thinking about what you're missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing."

Failing to acknowledge the good things God has given you makes you a loser. If you list out all blessings you have and thank God, you shall live a happier and more productive life.

Confess positive words. Make it a habit. 'I can, I shall, I will' is the mantra for you success.

When negative thoughts storm your mind, sit alone and fight against them. Negative thoughts are so powerful that they creep into our minds easily. You don't need an effort to create negative thoughts. Replace each negative thought by positive thought.

Stop confessing negatively;

I am timid
There is no more hope
I don't think I am a better person
This is a bad country
My family sucks!
People are ungrateful these days

Spread happiness wherever you go. Become a messenger of happy news. Speak encouraging words with others. Always tell disappointed people that there is a better way for them.

Always start your work with clear vision and expected outcome. Have a definite plan. Imagine the result you want to reach.

Read books that can build your personality and self confidence. Spend time in reading religious books that lead you to good thinking and moral enhancement.

Having fellowship with positive minded people will surely change your life. Select friends carefully. If someone's presence affects your personal and family life negatively, don't hesitate to sever the relationship.

Spend quality time with your spouse and children. If you are happy with your family, everything else will fall in place.

Quit drinking and smoking. Say no to pornography. People, who are addicted to pornography, are not happy people. Accept your failures and ponder over the mistakes you have made. Humble yourself.

Forgive yourself. Look for a new beginning. Start again. Your falls aren't your end. Whenever you fall, get up and try again.

A haughty heart can learn nothing.

Being positive makes you a real winner and the happiest person in the world.

Clement is an ESL teacher and a soft skills trainer. More can be found in his site http://www.mindyourenglish.com

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